So we’re not massively fussed on the whole Valentine’s Day thing…in fact last year we both managed to buy each other a card…but never actually got round to writing them! The funny thing is…that Joel has done exactly the same thing this year where as I on the other hand haven’t even bothered!

I would be absolutely lost without Joel, he’s literally the best person that I know. He’s an amazing example of what a good husband and father is. Our lives are pretty complex and can be challenging at times but we’re a team and we get through together.

I’m thankful for him every single day.

The Bible talks about love in lots of places. Probably the most famous passage is in 1 Corinthians 13 (which is often read at weddings!)

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.

All of the above is essential to making any relationship work. I’m not going to sit here and try and come up with ‘ten ways to make your relationship work whilst parenting special needs kids’ because actually I’m sure that we often get it wrong. However Joel is one of the most patient, kind and unself-centered people that I have ever met and he is a great Dad to both of the boys.

We often remind each other when we’re stressed that ‘we never wanted a boring life…’ and God has taken us on a crazy adventure…it’s nothing like we thought it would be but there’s no one else I would be on this journey with.