Being Toby's Mummy…

loving a special little boy with ASD through the ups and downs of life



Gruffalo Spotters!

Today we went on an adventure in the deep dark wood…

Having a three year old who knows the story of the Gruffalo off by heart, we just HAD to check out the new Gruffalo Spotters trail at Hamsterly Forest.  Continue reading “Gruffalo Spotters!”

Christmas at Center Parcs…

Well here it is…only a month or so late!!!

So we had a lovely couple of days away over Christmas at Center Parcs Sherwood. This was our second Christmas away after a really difficult time with Toby over the Christmas period two years ago. He finds Christmas really challenging but enjoys being away and if he’s happy then everyone else can enjoy themselves so it just works for us all. Continue reading “Christmas at Center Parcs…”

Our visit to Thomas Land – 

Anyone who knows us well will know that we love going away! As Toby would struggle with a long break (never mind going abroad) we tend to have lots of little breaks rather than big holidays. Last weekend we booked a very last minute trip to Drayton Manor to see our favouite little engine and enjoy some much needed time away from the business of everyday life.

Thomas Land is based in Drayton Manor theme park which is about three hours away from where we live so a little far to go there and back in a day. Although Toby isn’t the world’s greatest sleeper we decided to book a family room in a Travelodge and travel down Friday evening so that we could make the most of the Saturday at the theme park. I only really started worrying that he wouldn’t sleep on the journey down and had visions of us sitting outside in the car with him all night or pushing him round the service station next door in his buggy at 2am. We just prayed and thankfully he slept 10pm-4am which is pretty good for him in a new place. Keeping him occupied  at 4am in a Travelodge while Teddy was still asleep in the same room was interesting but we survived!

Due to it being the Christmas season the theme park only had a limited number of rides open and because of this tickets were much cheaper than normal. All of Thomas Land was open (which was all that really mattered to us) as well as a few smaller rides. There were also Santa visits available, a 4D Polar Express viewing as well as Christmassy shows and decorations.

We booked our tickets online as due to only certain rides being open tickets were much cheaper than usual and we still got a reduced rate for a disabled person and carer. My Max Card also have a discount on ticket prices which is a great saving during the main season if you have one of those.

The park opened at 9:30am, however the rides didn’t run until 10:30am so we timed it so that we had to just enough time to get a ride pass from Guest Services for Toby (as he can’t queue) before the rides actually started. More info about access for guests with additional needs can be found here –

Teddy loved seeing all his favourite characters and literally bounced around the park, Toby clapped and flapped and enjoyed the rides – especially the Troublesome Trucks Rollercoaster. We did have a bit of an issue waiting onboard Thomas (yes actual Thomas!) for a train ride to the adventure playground. There was lots of lights, noise and excitable people (very overstimulating) and although we were in a carriage by ourselves Toby become very distressed as he wanted the ride to go and we had to wait. He just didn’t understand why we were on a train and it wasn’t going anywhere…and because he can’t speak, his way of expressing that is to lash out and scream. Thankfully he soon calmed down as soon as Thomas started to go…phew!

They both loved the playground and we had our picnic lunch there too. The disabled toilets at the playground also had a bench for changing which was great as often these type of places just have a fold out baby changing station….which with a five year old that isn’t ideal!
By about 1pm Toby was getting a bit overwhelmed, even though he was queue jumping he was getting stressed waiting for the safety checks before the rides started and was ‘peopled out.’ I found somewhere quite and took him for a walk in his buggy and he had a little sleep. It always amazes me how he can go to sleep somewhere busy when he’s stressed…but not at home without medication. It’s obviously a coping strategy he uses as he used to do it at toddler groups when he was little – he would just cuddle up on my knee in the middle of a noisy room and go to sleep! Teddy enjoyed the soft play and a few more busier rides while Toby slept which was nice for him. Toby didn’t really sleep for long and woke up stressed…one of the songs that they were playing (a Thomas and friends Christmas song) really upsets him. This song used to be a favourite of his and he would play it over and over again on his iPad, however if it comes on these days he covers his ears and screams. Just shows how something so simple can have a huge impact on him.

By 2pm he was ready to leave and we headed home having all had a fun day out. It was lovely to see lots of children (and a couple of adults too) with additional needs enjoying a family day out. We had lots of understanding smiles and nods from other parents and carers which is always nice. Thank you Drayton Manor for catering so well for guests with disabilities – it really does make a big difference!

Summer so far…

So we’re nearly at the end of week one and are surviving so far!  Continue reading “Summer so far…”

Our North East ASD friendly Summer Holiday Bucket List

So Toby has officially broken up [insert mixed emotions!] and is off for the next 46 days…yes I’ve counted! He’s also been up since 2am as he struggles with transitions and he knows it’s the end of term.  Continue reading “Our North East ASD friendly Summer Holiday Bucket List”

Alton Towers – days 2+3

Incase you missed it, we had a great weekend break at Alton Towers last weekend (for day 1 check out – Alton Towers – day 1  )

I’m pleased to report that Toby slept better on Saturday night however we’ve all been pretty tired this week.  Continue reading “Alton Towers – days 2+3”

Alton Towers – day 1 

As a general rule I usually wait until we are home to write up what we’re up to but considering I’ve been awake on and off since 1am we’ll start and see how far we get!  Continue reading “Alton Towers – day 1 “


I haven’t lost the blogging bug (honest) it’s just becoming more difficult to find time to write. Toby’s spending far more hours awake than asleep and when he sleeps I sleep. Continue reading “half-term-holidays!”

Bank Holiday Break

We’ve had a lovely long weekend up in Northumberland. Continue reading “Bank Holiday Break”

Autism Friendly Holiday at Ream Hills Caravan Park

Well we’ve had a lovely little break at Ream Hills Caravan Park which is just outside of Blackpool.  Continue reading “Autism Friendly Holiday at Ream Hills Caravan Park”

Sandcastle Waterpark

Well we had an absolutely fantastic time at Sandcastle Waterpark this morning. Continue reading “Sandcastle Waterpark”

Visit to Sizergh Castle  

We’re away at the moment thanks to a great charity for funding a break for us all. Continue reading “Visit to Sizergh Castle  “

Easter Holidays…so far!

So after a very expensive trip to the Apple Store today…I have a working phone thanks to a brand new replacement handset…thanks Toby!  Continue reading “Easter Holidays…so far!”

Our amazing visit to ROF 59!

Well we had fun this morning! We joined in with the Little Angels (under 5’s) bounce session at ROF 59 at Aycliffe Business Park.  Continue reading “Our amazing visit to ROF 59!”

Our trip to the zoo! 

Well we’ve had a great trip to Yorkshire Wildlife Park today. Continue reading “Our trip to the zoo! “

Doing Christmas differently… 

We have had a lovely Christmas break at Centre Parcs in Whinfell forest in Cumbria.

Last year Toby didn’t cope with all the Christmas festivities and just stood at the door crying for his taxi to school. Having vowed to not put any of us through that again we decided to cancel our usual plans and go on holiday instead!  Continue reading “Doing Christmas differently… “

Enchanted Christmas at Whitworth Hall

Well we dug out our Christmas jumpers and wrapped up warm ready for our adventure to Enchanted Christmas at Whitworth Hall. We had been given tickets and were all excited to get in to the festive spirit together.  Continue reading “Enchanted Christmas at Whitworth Hall”

Adventures in Northumberland. 

We’re on half term at the moment and although the Summer holidays seem a lifetime ago I don’t really know where the last eight weeks have gone!  Continue reading “Adventures in Northumberland. “


So my beautiful little sister got married yesterday!  Continue reading “#winterschladenwedding “

Hancock:ASD friendly early opening

We had a great visit to The Great North Hancock Museum in Newcastle this morning. They opened an hour early today just for kids with autism – how good is that?!  Continue reading “Hancock:ASD friendly early opening”

Our LittleLife Adventures.

Toby had the priveldge of being selected to do a bit of product testing for LittleLife. Why would you get a non-verbal, disabled child to test a new product? Continue reading “Our LittleLife Adventures.”

The BEST day out all summer…

We’ve had a fantastic day out at Stockeld Park in Wetherby. It’s been on our bucket list for the past six months and it certainly didn’t disappoint! Continue reading “The BEST day out all summer…”

Our visit to Haven Point…

This morning was wet (very wet!) Rainy days can be pretty challenging for us as Toby loves being outdoors…but isn’t a big fan of the rain(shame as we live in the North East!) Also most places that most other people visit on wet days are too busy for Toby to cope with.  Continue reading “Our visit to Haven Point…”

Splash Pad! 

We had a lovely visit to the new splash pad at Riverside Park in Chester Le Street yesterday.  Continue reading “Splash Pad! “

Why we love IKEA!

Anyone who knows me will know that I am a BIG fan of Ikea! Pretty much all our furniture (and everything else!) comes from Ikea. I’m sat here typing on my Ikea bed, with my Ikea mattress, which has Ikea storage boxes under, next to our Ikea bed-side tables, on which I have an Ikea glass, opposite me I have my Ikea fitted PAX wardrobes and my Ikea mirror and shelving unit, I can also see two rolls of Ikea wrapping paper, an Ikea bin and one of those Ikea lanterns that EVERYBODY has…and not to mention every possible combination of expedit/kallax and storage boxes possible that we have in the rest of the house… (you get the picture!) Continue reading “Why we love IKEA!”

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